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Month October 2013

Eureka!

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In a breaking news item, CSIRO scientists have discovered gold growing on gum trees in Australia. In fact, the gold is actually growing in the leaves.

Who said the earth was flat? Who said we could never fly? Who said money doesn’t grow on trees?

Apparently what happens is the tree acts like a hydraulic pump. Sucking up gold from the deposit hidden in the ground underneath. So really, the tree is a pointer to the bigger gold deposit in the ground.  And it’s going to save the environment and the mining companies a small fortune. Because they can sample the leaves, rather than having to dig huge holes in the ground.

Busting myths. Busting mindsets. It changes the world, doesn’t it.

And time and time again we need to rethink our beliefs, don’t we. Because some genius must have been thinking outside the square even to sample the leaves in the first place. Asking such great questions like… what if? Opening up the possibilities rather than being locked into everyone else’s restricted thinking.

Everything starts with a thought.  And fortunes are just waiting to be found.

The only difference between a prince and pauper is how they think.

What are you thinking?

http://www.news.com.au/technology/business-technology/csiro-scientists-have-found-gold-growing-on-gum-trees-near-wudinna-on-the-eyre-peninsula/story-fn5lic6c-1226744812235

Silent Partner

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Most people don’t realise just how incredible they really are. Because they take everything at face value. Not realising that within us we have this incredible reserve of wisdom that can bring everything together perfectly.

And there are many names we can give this part of ourselves. Unconscious self, subconscious mind, higher self, the God within. But sometimes those terms are hard to grasp hold off, aren’t they. Maybe a bit out there for some people too. So I like to think of this part of myself a little like the silent partner in a business arrangement. There providing resources and support but quietly, from the sidelines. Often without even being noticed.

Take for instance you reading this sentence. How many of you realise you are using your subconscious mind to do it. Your eyes are scanning the words and your brain is making sense of them (at least I hope so). And this can only happen because you have been taught to read, little by little, lesson by lesson as a child. And once you got the hang of it you didn’t have to think about it much anymore, did you? It became automatic, relegated to the subconscious part of your mind, your memory. There to draw on whenever you need to. And the same can be said for walking, and driving and so many other things we take for granted. We really are amazing.

But that’s just the tip of it.

Is anyone watching Redesign My Brain? A brilliant little series on the ABC (its still available on ABC iview) where ordinary people are learning to use their brain in extraordinary ways. And it’s not hard to do. You just have to be open to thinking a little differently, don’t you. As Einstein said, we only use a small fraction of our brain capacity.

I wonder what could you achieve if you used even 10% more?

How would your life be different?

You probably already know I have spent the last 30 years teaching people how to get more from between their ears. Be sure to book your seat at Resolving the Mindset Riddle.

The Fallacy of The Never Ending Story

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Your perceptions coupled with your mindset determine whether or not you achieve your goals. That is why it is in your interest to clear any hindrances that are not obvious especially the ones that lurk beneath your conscious mind; one such insidious game spoiler is The Story.

The Story is the wellworn narrative you tell yourself (and anyone who cares to listen) about why it is not possible for you to achieve your financial or health goals. Or why you will never find the partner of your dreams because you are convinced by the dreaded story about the lack of loving, dependable potential mates out there in the big bad world.

If left unchecked it morphs into The Burning Martyr Syndrome that looks to serve up the charred remains of what otherwise could have been a magnificent life of wealth, health and happiness.

How The Story got constructed may have been via some unpleasant/frightening experience where you felt threatened, vulnerable, diminished and certainly disempowered. It’s the feeling of helplessness, of not having the right of reply or being able to defend yourself that is likely to be at the root of The Never Ending Story.

I am not for a moment making light of past events where physical or emotional abuse, bullying or intimidation was inflicted upon you usually by an authority figure. Nor am I condoning the behavior of the person against whom you felt powerless.

But, running The Story is choosing to be the victim (still)

Essentially you are saying that unless the perpetrator apologizes, makes amends, shows remorse, acknowledges their mistake or is punished and now behaves in a manner that meets your approval, you cannot move on or be happy.

You are saying your sense of happiness is dependent on another person. Since when has another person been responsible for your happiness and fulfillment?

What if that person is dead? What then are your chances of getting closure?

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You have no control over that event; however, what you do have absolute control over is how you choose to think, behave and act from that point in time.

So why are we loathe to let go of the story?

1) Because it justifies our reluctance to move on, (moving on takes effort). It allows us to take the high moral ground and feel self righteous. All the while each precious second that otherwise could have been dedicated to achieving what we want is frittered away.

2) Because of the time, emotional energy already vested in keeping it alive. The Story thrives on this emotional charge it receives with each retelling and reliving and takes on a life of its own. In fact there is scientific evidence to suggest that neural pathways associated with the memory and feelings are strengthened with each repeating of the event.

When will you give up on telling The Story?

When you have a big enough reason to; it will happen when you decide that it’s time to let go. For me it was simple as making a choice after I attended Illuminations Bootcamp. I recall Paul saying that until we sort out our relationships with father, mother, self and Source it will be a case of one step forwards two steps back, snakes and ladders and any other metaphor that illustrates the self sabotage and treachery your story supports.

I let go when I decided I had bigger fish to fry i.e., I identified huge personal and social goals I wanted to accomplish. It was when I got clear about why I am here and what I am to do until the day I am laid to rest.

Besides, the axe grinding was starting to lose its lustre and frankly it was beginning to be tiresome replaying the same event over and over again.

Funnily enough I had thought that I could never let it go because of all the anger, pain, angst that I had nursed through decades. Nah, that’s over rated; it’s perpetuated by people who have yet to discover their raison d’etre, that’s all.

The ball is in your court. What choice will you make today?

Go Fish!

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Did you hear they’ve banned goldfish bowls in Italy?

Yep, I’m serious. In the northern Italian region of Monza, home to Italy’s Formula 1 Grand Prix, they’ve banned their citizens from keeping goldfish in bowls.

Why?

Because, they argue, a fish kept in a bowl has a distorted view of reality… and suffers because of this.

Go figure.

Because how many people around us have a distorted view of reality? Carrying around their own goldfish bowl of suffering.

But perhaps there is something about fish.

In an experiment years ago they placed a large fish in an aquarium with plenty of little fish to feed on. And eat it did. Until the heartless researchers placed a glass partition in the tank dividing it in two, splitting the big fish off from his food source. And of course he put up a protest. Thrashing around, banging the glass… until he realized his efforts were in vain. So he gave up. Only thing is the researchers removed the glass partition when he wasn’t looking. And the little fish began swimming all around him again. But he didn’t touch them. So convinced was he that they were beyond his reach. And so he starved to death in a sea of food.

Conditioned to believe it was impossible.

That easily.

We can’t be that stupid… can we?

 

Chuck It Away

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Have you ever seen the vault in an art gallery? Sure they hang all this good stuff upstairs. Well some of it’s good. All depends on your point of view, doesn’t it. And then downstairs they have so much more. Paintings stored away for years. Hidden treasures. Some great works of art. For the most part forgotten. But still there all the same.

And our mind is just the same. Upstairs, our conscious mind contains all the stuff we are aware of. Everyday stuff like how to get to that meeting on time. Or decisions like what am I going to eat tonight? Or problem solving those mindboggling issues like how do I deal with my teenager. But it can only hold so much, can’t it. And sometimes it can be on loop. I reckon we’ve all had the experience of having too much in our mind at the one time. That’s when our heads start to spin, isn’t it.

So downstairs we all have the equivalent of the gallery vault. A huge facility to store everything that there’s no room for on the first floor. Everything that is precious and important to us. Because that’s where we tuck away our memories. And the beliefs we’ve picked up over the years. And feelings from long ago. And the programmes we’ve been conditioned with. And the experiences we’ve had. And anything else we’ve learned along the way. Both good and bad. For the most part forgotten. But still real. Just hidden away so we don’t overload the top floor like those other works of art.

But most people don’t realise that what’s downstairs affects everything we do.

I was working with someone the other day who swore black and blue he didn’t believe something. Well at least not consciously. But when we checked in with his subconscious (and this is pretty easy to do, you just need to look at what’s happening in your life to work out what’s locked in your vault downstairs) of course the belief was there. Conditioned as a child by watching his parents struggle. Little choice really but to take it on himself.  Until now…

Because our real power is when we become aware of what’s tucked away inside and then take steps to change it, isn’t it. So what’s in your vault? And what do you need to chuck away?

Emotional Congruence

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So we know that emotions are contagious. But did you know our emotions directly affect what we see in the world? And our actual experience of it.

Take two people. One happy, one sad. Show them 50 slides of mixed emotional content. And then ask them to remember what they saw. The happy person remembers more of the happy slides. And of course the sad person… you fill it in.

Both potentials are there but the emotion is like wearing a pair of glasses that let’s you only see half the view.

And it’s because of this thing called emotional congruence. Which means we pay selective attention to our world dependent on how we feel. In plain English, we focus on the stuff around us that mirrors how we’re feeling on the inside. So if we’re feeling crappy we see more of the crappy dark side of life. Things look blacker so to speak. But if we’re feeling more positive, we see more beauty. And our creative self comes out to play. It’s quite something to think that we all live in the same world but our emotions determine what we see and how we experience it.

And instead of realising the world is just reflecting what’s inside, the temptation is to play the blame game. Gathering evidence to justify why we feel the way we do. Creating a story.  Giving away our power. Rather than seeing that it’s because we feel lousy we are necessarily experiencing more of the negatives in life.  And it can become a downward spiral.

Because these moods affect the way we think too. In a study out of UNSW, they talked to people who’d just been to the movies. Some people saw happy movies, some people saw sad or more aggressive movies. And then they asked them questions about things like the future, about their quality of life. Needless to say those who saw the happier movie were more optimistic than those who saw the sad or more aggressive movies.

And I’m sure everyone’s experienced  at some time or another how much how we feel influences our perception of ourselves and others…

So if you want the opportunities that come with a positive mindset, it’s important to get yourself around happier people and be aware of the mood you’re in when you’re making those important decisions. Because creating happiness is a choice that we make minute to minute and day to day.

So where can you bring greater happiness into your life?