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Month May 2014

Just stop!

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Okay, so we’ve all had those times when we we’ve been impulsive, haven’t we. Maybe buying that shiny new toy ‘we just had to have’ but regretting it later when we saw the credit card bill. And then there are those situations where someone’s pressed our buttons and whoa, there you have it, the automatic response we’re ashamed of when we know we could have responded much better. The benefit of hindsight and a cooling off period is a wonderful thing, isn’t it.

So how do you learn to respond differently in the moment?

Well it’s a simple little tool called ‘The Gap’. And while it’s simple, it does take a certain amount of awareness to use it. But don’t be too hard on yourself if you don’t get it immediately. Intent is what counts here. And after a bit of practice you might be surprised at how easy it is to use.

How does it work? Well basically, it’s about putting a gap between an impulse and an action. Pausing to take stock, so that our actions become responses rather than re-actions. So when you see that shiny new toy that demands you buy it, it’s about noticing that feeling of want but not giving in to it immediately. Instead, taking a breath, or walking away if necessary and then deciding whether you really have to have it, or whether you’d rather use your money for something else. Sometimes of course you’ll buy it, but it’s with a clear head rather thanas an impulsive purchase.

And the Gap can work magic in relationships too. Taking a moment to pause as you catch yourself reacting allows you to pull back from the heat of the moment and respond in a way that is respectful to both our feelings and the other person’s.

The beauty of the Gap is that it allows us to consider what is the best thing to do in any given moment. It’s about living consciously rather than just sleep walking our way through life on auto-pilot. Mindfulness meditation puts it like this… when you feel that urge to react just STOP before you do anything.

S = Stop

T= Take a breath

O= Observe

P= Proceed

Where can you use the Gap in your life?

99 degrees

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So are you the kid who came home with 99/100 on the report card. And your parents asked ‘What happened to the other 1?’. Kind of sucked didn’t it. After all,  looking back on it, what difference would that one mark have really made? Bugger all probably. But we felt deflated anyway.

I’ve spent a good part of my life helping people overcome the feelings of ‘not good enough’ that this can set up. Well meaning parents I’m sure who really only wanted the best for their kids but just stuffed up the message.

But there are times when that 1/100 can make all the difference.

And it is a bloody big deal.

And that is where we need to focus our energy.

When you understand the boiling water analogy it makes perfect sense. Because as you know water doesn’t boil at 99 degrees.  Not at sea level anyway. At 99 degrees you’ve just got hot water. Bloody hot water. But just hot water all the same. Good for cooking all those spuds I’ve been eating.

But think about it for a minute.

Just one more degree and you’ve got steam.

Blow the spuds, steam has the energy to power engines.

Sometimes when we hit a plateau in reaching our goals, it’s important to realise how far we’ve come. To take some time to look back and see the huge things we’ve achieved. And then to take a deep breath… and keep going. Because at 99 degrees you are so close to the tipping point it’s almost tangible. You just mightn’t realise it yet.  Just one degree more and you’ll be across the line and a whole new world of possibility arises… You’ve just got to hang in there to watch the magic unfold.

Hot water to steam in just one degree.

Now that’s what I call a quantum leap.

Where do you need to focus to find your one degree?

So you want to build a business

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We ‘wowed’ our Entrepreneurs Master Class this week. An awestruck audience watched on as we built an entire business in just two days.

That’s right. Just two days.

Well 26 hours to be exact.

It’s been a dream of mine for years to do this. And this week we made it happen. One of our clients with a business idea we transformed into reality in a matter of hours.

And I’m talking building a business from the ground up.

We didn’t even start with a business name. Brainstorming everything from scratch. The name, the logo, the domain, the youtube channel, twitter, facebook, website content, graphics. And in 26 hours it’s all up and running with the likes pouring in. We even managed to film and upload our first video and write an entire e-book.

Not bad for 26 hours work huh!

So the business is up and running and the list is already building. Needless to say we have one very happy client and a bunch of others signing up for the same.

It can be done.

And we just proved it!

So many people stuff around for ages trying to make this happen. Waiting ‘til things are perfect before making anything happen.

But is anything really ever perfect?

You could be waiting forever.

The secret… to gather together the collective creative genius of an awesome team. It makes the impossible possible. Peers, strategists, writers, designers, IT. And to buy what you don’t know. Because going it alone can cost you dearly in both time and money.

Most people think they need to build a business on their own. Jack of all trades and master of none. But we couldn’t have done it without the incredible support and skills of our brains trust.

So you want to start a business?

We’ve set the bar.

In October this year we’ll be taking sixteen budding entrepreneurs to Thailand. And in just ten days we’ll have sixteen businesses fully up and running.

Will yours be one of them?

Be the Change

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How come for one person the world is full of arseholes and they attract them like magnets? And it’s everybody else’s fault. While for another life is just peachy.

Most people don’t realise that what we put out is exactly what we get back. It’s one of those universal laws. And that’s why two people can have the very same thing happen to them, but experience it in completely different ways.

It all comes back to mindset.

And that’s a direct reflection of our beliefs.

If for example, we see the world as a dangerous place, all we’re going to do is hone in on the dangerous stuff. It’s like we set our subconscious the task of singling every bit of danger out just to prove to ourselves what we already believe is true. And it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, doesn’t it. Every dumb arse out to get us.

But another person, who believes the world is just this great big awesome adventure will attract quite the opposite and the very best of everything.

We can do ourselves, and other people, other situations, a great disservice by being locked into a mindset that doesn’t allow us to see something else entirely.

As they say, if you don’t like something, change it.

If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.

The magic of this is that in changing the way we think about something, we often find the problem simply disappears. Because everything starts in the mind.

Ghandi was right. Be the change you want to see in the world.

Embody it and it will come back to you.

What situations is your mindset attracting?

Who in your life could you set free by being willing to see them differently?

Is it time to get your check up from the neck up?

There’s no time like the present to change your mind.

 

A traveler came upon an old farmer hoeing in his field beside the road. Eager to rest his feet, the wanderer hailed the countryman, who seemed happy enough to straighten his back and talk for a moment.

“What sort of people live in the next town?” asked the stranger.

“What were the people like where you’ve come from?” replied the farmer, answering the question with another question.

“They were a bad lot. Troublemakers all, and lazy too. The most selfish people in the world, and not a one of them to be trusted. I’m happy to be leaving the scoundrels.”

“Is that so?” replied the old farmer. “Well, I’m afraid that you’ll find the same sort in the next town.

Disappointed, the traveler trudged on his way, and the farmer returned to his work.

Some time later another stranger, coming from the same direction, hailed the farmer, and they stopped to talk. “What sort of people live in the next town?” he asked.

“What were the people like where you’ve come from?” replied the farmer once again.

“They were the best people in the world. Hard working, honest, and friendly. I’m sorry to be leaving them.”

“Fear not,” said the farmer. “You’ll find the same sort in the next town.”

 

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