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Windfall

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So did you see Insight? The stuff that dreams are made of. Winning money, discovering priceless antiques, inheriting a small fortune. Fascinating how many ways you can come into money and the different responses people have, isn’t it.

What about the guy who found $30 million worth of artwork stored in the dirty old garage of the house he’d just bought? Or the couple who won a cool $4 million in the WA lotto with a ticket that was a birthday gift.

So many different reactions both from the winners and their friends and family. All because there are so many different beliefs, different values, different judgements around money.

Take the guy who found the artwork. Savvy enough to recognise the potential and establish clear ownership before having it valued. Now that’s level-headed and makes for handling the $30 million he came into that much easier. And the best bit is that his good fortune had a spin off for others so they too came into some big bucks. He sure had an abundance mentality.

Or the lotto winner that won a half share in £22 million (British pounds that is – just work that one out in Aussie dollars). Twenty years ago it was worth even more. And instead of handing over his fortune to a financial advisor to play the money market he decided to have a go at it himself, have some fun with it and if he lost he’d only be accountable to himself. Now that’s detachment.

And then there’s the young woman that wouldn’t even let herself be identified. Sworn to secrecy by her family over a relatively small inheritance. A nervous breakdown because inheriting money ran so against her beliefs that she should earn all the money that comes to her. Such a tragic example of the power of beliefs around money. Beliefs passed down through generations of a working class family. And the money’s still just sitting there. Imprisoned by their own beliefs it’s not doing anyone any good. Not even the local charity.

In order to resolve the money riddle the first lesson to understand is that it’s not about the money.

Is it time you join us at Resolving the Money Riddle?

 

What are your beliefs around money?

Are your beliefs holding you back?

Simple lessons

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I had my windscreen washed again the other day. And as I stopped at the lights and admired the agility of this humble man dancing between the cars on Northbourne Avenue, I thought of the lessons he is teaching all of us, if only we are open enough to stop and realise.

Each day at the lights washing windscreens for example you might not consider him a business man. But that’s exactly what he is. Talk about committed, he’s out there in almost every type of weather. The freezing cold right through to the stinking hot days that are this city. And he’s probably earning more per hour than most, with very few overheads. Now that’s smart. And simple. Sometimes it pays to keep things simple.

But even more than the simplicity of his business I am struck by the way he mirrors back to us our own version of humanity. Some people are uncomfortable with a man washing windows on one of the busiest corners in the city centre. Even to the extent of hurling abuse and condemnation. And then there are others who see a fellow human being, acknowledging him with a smile as they agree to the wash or not. I know who I’d rather be around.

Isn’t it interesting how the same situation, the same person can cause such different responses? I’ve come to the conclusion that it really all boils down to our beliefs about what’s right and the judgements we attach. It’s simple really. The more tolerant and accepting we are, the happier we are. Because when we live like this, there’s very little to get worked up about really.

One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and others is to learn acceptance. Of other people, of other beliefs, of other situations. So the next time you find yourself in a situation that rattles your cage, just take a moment to find out what the lesson in it is for you.

Are you locked into the habit of easy judgement? After all, does it really matter?

How much better could life be if you responded differently?

 

Becoming the Immovable Object

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There’s a silent protest going on this morning. With a police presence of two, it’s not what you would call disruptive. But it is impactful all the same. It’s hard to ignore people of Chinese background dressed in yellow with large banners calling for the persecution of Falun Gong to end. And for the illegal trafficking of human organs to stop.

Witnessing the protest this morning reminds me of how fortunate we are to live in a country that allows us to pursue our own spiritual beliefs and way of thinking with relative freedom. Some things we take for granted. Standing there silently, allowing their presence to speak for itself, it is difficult to comprehend the persecution of people that uphold truthfulness, compassion and forbearance. But then, that’s the history of the world, isn’t it.

Watching these people, I am reminded of Mary’s take on things when things are not right. ‘Be an immoveable object’, she says. Respectful yes, but grounded and immoveable when things just have to change. From first hand experience, the power in that is quite a force to be reckoned with. I’ve seen many people back down under that energy.

Sometimes the greatest strength is not physical. You only have to look at some of our greatest leaders to see that in action.

Where can you make things better by becoming an immoveable object?

Live and let live

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It seems the world has gone to crap at the moment, doesn’t it. Just pick any channel and when it’s not fear and terror, war and invasion seem to be the lead news items.

And it seems to me it all boils down to this… one group of people who have beliefs that are different from another group of people. But they feel so strongly that they are right and the other people wrong that they are prepared to kill or be killed.

Now I’m not in the business of making people right or wrong so I’m not getting into an opinion on it. I’m just looking at it from the outside perspective of seeing that it’s the thoughts in people’s heads, the beliefs they hold, that are causing a whole lot of suffering. For them and those around them. And we can become so locked into our beliefs can’t we. So attached to them we are willing to pay almost any price to defend them.

But it doesn’t just happen on a global scale, does it?

While we’re busy pointing the finger at the wars in other countries how often do we forget the wars we create in our own lives here at home. Family feuds or communities in conflict simply because we have a difference of opinion.  But it doesn’t have to be a case of right and wrong, does it. Why can’t we just have a difference of opinion? Why can’t we live and let live?

Tolerance, understanding, acceptance. These are keys words that will make all the difference if we practise them. Creating peace in our lives and those around us. That’s a sign of true inner strength.

As they say, walk a mile…

Where can you practise understanding and acceptance of another’s point of view even if you don’t agree?

 

Belief

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This week, Meriam Ibrahim narrowly escaped death for her beliefs. Her crime… refusing to renounce her personal religious beliefs that were different from the law enforced beliefs of the country in which she was raised.

This woman was willing to die for her beliefs.

A belief in free will.

A belief in free thought.

A belief in basic human rights.

Terrifying isn’t it. That they would hang this young mother simply because she believed in something different. Didn’t hurt anyone. Just believed something different to the cultural norm.

How many of us would be dead if that happened here?

Makes me feel especially blessed that I live in a society where I am free to choose my beliefs. Free to change the ones that don’t work for me. Free to subscribe to the ones that do.

In this country we have the ability to choose what we believe. But how often do we actively exercise that ability? Or do we just run with the crowd. Believing what other’s believe. Beliefs we’ve picked up along the way, but never challenged to see if those beliefs are truly worthy of believing. Worthy of who we are.

While few of us have to fight for lives over what we do and do not choose to believe, they are nonetheless a powerful influence. Affecting everything we think and do not think, feel and do not feel, do or do not do, see and do not see, choose and do not choose. There’s even science to show that beliefs affect our biology.

It’s so important then that we choose our beliefs carefully. And as free thinking beings we get to do this. Getting rid of the beliefs we’ve just picked up along the way. Beliefs that belong to another person, another place, another time. Choosing instead those beliefs that are aligned with who we really are and what we really value now. And what we want our life to be.

Don’t know what your beliefs are?

Just look at your life. Your beliefs will be reflected back by what’s around you.

I wonder how many of those beliefs you actively choose for yourself?

When was the last time you took control of your beliefs?

 

Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny.

Mahatma Gandhi

Be the Change

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How come for one person the world is full of arseholes and they attract them like magnets? And it’s everybody else’s fault. While for another life is just peachy.

Most people don’t realise that what we put out is exactly what we get back. It’s one of those universal laws. And that’s why two people can have the very same thing happen to them, but experience it in completely different ways.

It all comes back to mindset.

And that’s a direct reflection of our beliefs.

If for example, we see the world as a dangerous place, all we’re going to do is hone in on the dangerous stuff. It’s like we set our subconscious the task of singling every bit of danger out just to prove to ourselves what we already believe is true. And it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, doesn’t it. Every dumb arse out to get us.

But another person, who believes the world is just this great big awesome adventure will attract quite the opposite and the very best of everything.

We can do ourselves, and other people, other situations, a great disservice by being locked into a mindset that doesn’t allow us to see something else entirely.

As they say, if you don’t like something, change it.

If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.

The magic of this is that in changing the way we think about something, we often find the problem simply disappears. Because everything starts in the mind.

Ghandi was right. Be the change you want to see in the world.

Embody it and it will come back to you.

What situations is your mindset attracting?

Who in your life could you set free by being willing to see them differently?

Is it time to get your check up from the neck up?

There’s no time like the present to change your mind.

 

A traveler came upon an old farmer hoeing in his field beside the road. Eager to rest his feet, the wanderer hailed the countryman, who seemed happy enough to straighten his back and talk for a moment.

“What sort of people live in the next town?” asked the stranger.

“What were the people like where you’ve come from?” replied the farmer, answering the question with another question.

“They were a bad lot. Troublemakers all, and lazy too. The most selfish people in the world, and not a one of them to be trusted. I’m happy to be leaving the scoundrels.”

“Is that so?” replied the old farmer. “Well, I’m afraid that you’ll find the same sort in the next town.

Disappointed, the traveler trudged on his way, and the farmer returned to his work.

Some time later another stranger, coming from the same direction, hailed the farmer, and they stopped to talk. “What sort of people live in the next town?” he asked.

“What were the people like where you’ve come from?” replied the farmer once again.

“They were the best people in the world. Hard working, honest, and friendly. I’m sorry to be leaving them.”

“Fear not,” said the farmer. “You’ll find the same sort in the next town.”

 

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Eureka!

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In a breaking news item, CSIRO scientists have discovered gold growing on gum trees in Australia. In fact, the gold is actually growing in the leaves.

Who said the earth was flat? Who said we could never fly? Who said money doesn’t grow on trees?

Apparently what happens is the tree acts like a hydraulic pump. Sucking up gold from the deposit hidden in the ground underneath. So really, the tree is a pointer to the bigger gold deposit in the ground.  And it’s going to save the environment and the mining companies a small fortune. Because they can sample the leaves, rather than having to dig huge holes in the ground.

Busting myths. Busting mindsets. It changes the world, doesn’t it.

And time and time again we need to rethink our beliefs, don’t we. Because some genius must have been thinking outside the square even to sample the leaves in the first place. Asking such great questions like… what if? Opening up the possibilities rather than being locked into everyone else’s restricted thinking.

Everything starts with a thought.  And fortunes are just waiting to be found.

The only difference between a prince and pauper is how they think.

What are you thinking?

http://www.news.com.au/technology/business-technology/csiro-scientists-have-found-gold-growing-on-gum-trees-near-wudinna-on-the-eyre-peninsula/story-fn5lic6c-1226744812235

Go Fish!

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Did you hear they’ve banned goldfish bowls in Italy?

Yep, I’m serious. In the northern Italian region of Monza, home to Italy’s Formula 1 Grand Prix, they’ve banned their citizens from keeping goldfish in bowls.

Why?

Because, they argue, a fish kept in a bowl has a distorted view of reality… and suffers because of this.

Go figure.

Because how many people around us have a distorted view of reality? Carrying around their own goldfish bowl of suffering.

But perhaps there is something about fish.

In an experiment years ago they placed a large fish in an aquarium with plenty of little fish to feed on. And eat it did. Until the heartless researchers placed a glass partition in the tank dividing it in two, splitting the big fish off from his food source. And of course he put up a protest. Thrashing around, banging the glass… until he realized his efforts were in vain. So he gave up. Only thing is the researchers removed the glass partition when he wasn’t looking. And the little fish began swimming all around him again. But he didn’t touch them. So convinced was he that they were beyond his reach. And so he starved to death in a sea of food.

Conditioned to believe it was impossible.

That easily.

We can’t be that stupid… can we?

 

Chuck It Away

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Have you ever seen the vault in an art gallery? Sure they hang all this good stuff upstairs. Well some of it’s good. All depends on your point of view, doesn’t it. And then downstairs they have so much more. Paintings stored away for years. Hidden treasures. Some great works of art. For the most part forgotten. But still there all the same.

And our mind is just the same. Upstairs, our conscious mind contains all the stuff we are aware of. Everyday stuff like how to get to that meeting on time. Or decisions like what am I going to eat tonight? Or problem solving those mindboggling issues like how do I deal with my teenager. But it can only hold so much, can’t it. And sometimes it can be on loop. I reckon we’ve all had the experience of having too much in our mind at the one time. That’s when our heads start to spin, isn’t it.

So downstairs we all have the equivalent of the gallery vault. A huge facility to store everything that there’s no room for on the first floor. Everything that is precious and important to us. Because that’s where we tuck away our memories. And the beliefs we’ve picked up over the years. And feelings from long ago. And the programmes we’ve been conditioned with. And the experiences we’ve had. And anything else we’ve learned along the way. Both good and bad. For the most part forgotten. But still real. Just hidden away so we don’t overload the top floor like those other works of art.

But most people don’t realise that what’s downstairs affects everything we do.

I was working with someone the other day who swore black and blue he didn’t believe something. Well at least not consciously. But when we checked in with his subconscious (and this is pretty easy to do, you just need to look at what’s happening in your life to work out what’s locked in your vault downstairs) of course the belief was there. Conditioned as a child by watching his parents struggle. Little choice really but to take it on himself.  Until now…

Because our real power is when we become aware of what’s tucked away inside and then take steps to change it, isn’t it. So what’s in your vault? And what do you need to chuck away?

Star Gazing

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I was out star gazing last night. You know, that beautiful time of night when everything is still and the sky is crystal clear. I’d say quiet too. Except for the hundred of frogs making their incredible racket that you can really only hear at night. And as I enjoyed the night air I found myself contemplating those millions of stars sending their light from millions of light years away. Incredible to think that the star may no longer even exist and yet it still shines its light.

And then I saw the plane. Well more specifically the flashing lights that told me it wasn’t a shooting star. And it got me to thinking how the concept of flight was once just an idea in someone’s head. A possibility that challenged all known beliefs. A dream of something incredible. And where other people believed it impossible, someone held firm to the belief that it could be done. Not letting go. Believing in themselves. Ignoring the naysayers. Persisting until they found a way to achieve what they knew deep within themselves was possible.

And now it is us who get the benefits of their faith in themselves and the possibilities. I often wonder what brilliant ideas are yet to come.

So what do you believe in?

And what do you have to do to make it a reality?

The Game of Life

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Sometimes it’s the splash that gets in our eyes. And we just can’t see clearly. Can’t see what’s happening right in front of us. Or why things are happening the way they are. Not just our beliefs blinding us, but life’s unfolding. And I find it always helps to get another perspective.  To distance ourselves so we can see things more clearly from different angle.

I learned this lesson years ago when I was coaching a kids water polo team. And I just couldn’t understand why the kids couldn’t understand what I was saying. Couldn’t see what I was seeing. It went a bit like this. There I was in the stands watching the game unfold below. But the kids had a different perspective. They were so highly involved down in the game. Going through the motions. Surrounded by waves of water. Trying not to drown in the process of scoring goals. Sounds a bit like life, doesn’t it.

And then one day it dawned on me that I had to show them the game as I was seeing it. So I got them all out of the pool and up in the stand. All save one kid.  I left him in the water with instructions to do his thing. And in that moment everyone could see what I had been seeing. ‘So that’s what Steve’s doing!’ And it all became suddenly very clear to them.

Would it surprise you to know those kids went on to be runner’s up in the School Boys State Knockout? How’s that for performance. Second out of every high school in the entire state just by getting a different perspective.

Where do you need to shift your focus?

Seeing Blind

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I was looking for a book one day. So sure it was on the shelf. So sure it had a particular colour cover. So sure it was a particular size. But I couldn’t find it. I scanned the shelf three times. And then gave up.  Convinced it wasn’t there. That’s when another member of the family came in with a different memory of the book. A memory of it being another colour. And another style. Smart arse found it in one minute.

And it was there all the time. I just couldn’t see it. Blinded by my own beliefs about what it was like. How it should have appeared. And I find this often happens with people. So sure things have to be a certain way that we can miss the very thing we want that’s right in front of our noses.

Beliefs. Some we’d even die for. How incredible is that? After all, beliefs are just thoughts. Thoughts we just keep thinking. Just thoughts we are so sure are true. And that’s what they become for us. Because we keep on thinking them. But I often wonder how many were ever really our beliefs to begin with. Or have we just picked them up along the way? Somebody else’s ideas we’ve taken on as our own. Some we’re ready to die for and they’re not even ours in the first place.

So what beliefs are blinding you? And what beliefs are you better to leave behind…