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On the job

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A civil war is never a good thing.  A country divided will always lose. But that’s exactly what’s happening when we’re fighting against ourselves. Those hidden beliefs that keep us locked into patterns we no longer want in our lives. Picking the wrong partners, jobs, investments. Unable to break through those unwanted feelings. Continually missing those goals we strive so hard to achieve.

As I said at a recent workshop, when you go up against something self-generated it will nail you.

And that’s why we need to get our subconscious minds on the same page as what we want consciously. Because otherwise all those early learned beliefs and experiences, that are probably not even relevant anymore, could be the very things that are keeping us from what we want. Holding us back when we are striving so hard to move forward.

Fact is, no matter how hard we try to achieve those things (conscious level effort), if we’re working against our own deeply held beliefs (subconscious processes) we’re just never going to get there. It’s a mind divided.

And while it may seem that your subconscious is out to get you, it’s not. That part of you is just doing its best to protect you. But doing its best may well be based on out dated information you no longer need that’s just getting in the way.

So as you set your new year goals, it’s essential to ensure that you get your subconscious on the job too. Because when you change what’s going on at that deeper subconscious level, life has no choice. It must change around you.

 

Are you ready for an awesome 2015?

Is it time to teach yourself something new?

It’s the law

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Did you know you people are twice as likely to cough at a concert than they are in day to day life? How weird’s that! And while it may be that people are just strangely uncomfortable at some level with sitting in silence (and cough to break it up), perhaps it’s because they are actually trying so hard not to cough that it actually makes the coughing worse. In some concerts they actually put a message across before the start telling people not to cough. No pressure there.

Have you ever tried not to do something?

It’s called the law of reversed effect. And basically this law states that the more we consciously focus on trying NOT to do something, the more we’re guaranteed to get it. In other words, what we resist persists.  And of course when you’re ‘trying’ are you really going to achieve it anyway? Trying is just plain hard work.

How many of you know someone desperate to achieve something and when they finally give up trying it all just seems to fall into place?

Understanding how the mind works is so important if you want to achieve your goals. Just think about it for a minute… if you’re trying not to do something where’s your focus? It’s on exactly what you don’t want to be doing. It’s on exactly what you don’t want to happen. And there bang in the middle of your mind is exactly the picture of what it is you don’t want! Talk about sending yourself the wrong message. How many people live their lives focussed on exactly what they don’t want? No wonder there’s so many unhappy people out there.

But what happens if we focus on what we do want instead? Get really clear on what we want out of life. What we want to achieve. We send ourselves a different message, don’t we.  We give ourselves a different picture to go after. And once we have that in mind, and we’ve taken all the action steps we need to, letting go and trusting our subconscious to go out there and make it happen, it really does take all the hard work out of it.

So next time you’re trying not to do something, take a minute and rethink it.

What are you trying not to do?

What could you be doing instead?

Flow

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They call it ‘Flow’. That effortless state of being in which we can find true happiness. That state of focus where we are so engrossed in an activity that we lose track of time and all other distractions. Maybe it’s being engrossed in a book. Or in the zone through physical activity. Or it’s your work. Or doing something you love.

What most people don’t realise is that our subconscious minds take over when we’re in the state of ‘Flow’. Thinking stops and the creative mind takes over. We are simply being. Fully present to the moment and the experience. Fully engaged. An effortless state. And the result… research shows it’s pure happiness.

But ‘Flow’ doesn’t always just happen, does it. Sometimes we need to make it happen. And we can do this by giving ourselves the opportunity to experience this state of being. Making time for the things we love. Prioritising what gives us meaning and purpose.

In the heavy demands of life, we need to be ruthless sometimes in protecting this private space for ourselves in which we can recharge and create for ourselves the opportunity to experience our own happiness. And it’s not selfish. In fact, it’s a community service. Because the happier you are the happier the people are around you. It spreads like wildfire.

Lots of moments in flow, equals a life in flow. And the more I discover and practice this, the easier my life becomes. Even through the rough times.

Where can you create ‘Flow’ today?

The Power of How

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And no it’s not a misprint. I’m not referring  to Eckhart Tolle’s book on spiritual enlightenment. I’m talking about the word ‘how’.

I wonder if you’ve ever realised it’s one of the most important words in the English language.

Want to know why?

Because it opens the mind.

Let’s say you want to go on an overseas holiday.  Teased by those tv adverts, or posters in travel agent windows that scream ‘book me now’ you want it so bad you can almost feel it. The sand, the mountains, the castles, the cocktails, the cruise. Whatever takes your fancy.

But there’s a problem… no money in the account.

So often the default pattern is to simply give up and say “I can’t afford it”.

But that only serves to reinforce the poverty mindset. Feels pretty ordinary when you think like that, doesn’t it.

So here’s a flash…

What happens if instead you ask the question “How can I afford it?”

Most people don’t realise the use of the word HOW in front of any thing opens up a whole new world of possibilities.

“I can’t” closes things down.

“How can I” opens things up.

HOW can I afford it?

HOW can I make it happen?

HOW can I achieve my goal?

This little word ‘how’ is a bit of magic. Because it enables that brilliant creative subconscious mind of yours to get to work to make it happen. It creates an opportunity.

So how will you put this to work?

Seeing the future

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Visualisation. It’s an incredibly powerful tool. And the athletes have known this for years. Visualising just a few minutes a day to perfect a routine. Or to build body strength. How incredible is it that just visualising an exercise is almost as good at building strength as if you were actually doing the exercise? In a Canadian study a few years back researchers discovered football jocks who worked out could increase the strength of their hip flexors by about 28%. That’s a great result. But the athletes that only thought about working out increased their muscle strength by a massive 24%. Almost as big an improvement simply by training mentally instead of physically. Now that has huge potential, doesn’t it. That something we do in the mind translates to physical changes in the body. And they did it in just two weeks. That’s the strength of our mind-body connection for you.

But how does visualisation work when we are visualising things outside of ourselves? Visualising the future we want to create for instance. Well the reason it’s so important to feed our minds the images of what we want is because of how powerful our minds really are. Because day in, day out, our subconscious minds are processing thousands of bits of information. Both internally and externally. What temperature it is outside, how low our blood sugar is, how fast that car is going as we’re moving into traffic, the conversation across the room. And it only draws our attention to the information that is important for us to be aware of. Ever noticed how you can be in a room paying no attention to what’s being said on the other side until someone mentions your name? And then you’re right on it, aren’t you. And that’s because our subconscious is out there scanning for the stuff that is meaningful and important to us. Allowing only a certain amount of information up consciously. Otherwise we’d go mad… too much to handle.

So here’s the thing. Your subconscious is selective in what it makes you consciously aware of.  So if you feed your mind images of what you want, it gets the idea and will include any useful bits of information in what it sends up to your consciousness. Opening up opportunities that will get you to where you want to be. Opportunities you might have otherwise missed even if they were right under your nose.

Best not to dwell then on the stuff you don’t want, isn’t it.

Luckily you don’t have to be a jock to benefit. How different would your life be if you spent just 15 minutes a day visualising your perfect future?

Silent Partner

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Most people don’t realise just how incredible they really are. Because they take everything at face value. Not realising that within us we have this incredible reserve of wisdom that can bring everything together perfectly.

And there are many names we can give this part of ourselves. Unconscious self, subconscious mind, higher self, the God within. But sometimes those terms are hard to grasp hold off, aren’t they. Maybe a bit out there for some people too. So I like to think of this part of myself a little like the silent partner in a business arrangement. There providing resources and support but quietly, from the sidelines. Often without even being noticed.

Take for instance you reading this sentence. How many of you realise you are using your subconscious mind to do it. Your eyes are scanning the words and your brain is making sense of them (at least I hope so). And this can only happen because you have been taught to read, little by little, lesson by lesson as a child. And once you got the hang of it you didn’t have to think about it much anymore, did you? It became automatic, relegated to the subconscious part of your mind, your memory. There to draw on whenever you need to. And the same can be said for walking, and driving and so many other things we take for granted. We really are amazing.

But that’s just the tip of it.

Is anyone watching Redesign My Brain? A brilliant little series on the ABC (its still available on ABC iview) where ordinary people are learning to use their brain in extraordinary ways. And it’s not hard to do. You just have to be open to thinking a little differently, don’t you. As Einstein said, we only use a small fraction of our brain capacity.

I wonder what could you achieve if you used even 10% more?

How would your life be different?

You probably already know I have spent the last 30 years teaching people how to get more from between their ears. Be sure to book your seat at Resolving the Mindset Riddle.

Chuck It Away

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Have you ever seen the vault in an art gallery? Sure they hang all this good stuff upstairs. Well some of it’s good. All depends on your point of view, doesn’t it. And then downstairs they have so much more. Paintings stored away for years. Hidden treasures. Some great works of art. For the most part forgotten. But still there all the same.

And our mind is just the same. Upstairs, our conscious mind contains all the stuff we are aware of. Everyday stuff like how to get to that meeting on time. Or decisions like what am I going to eat tonight? Or problem solving those mindboggling issues like how do I deal with my teenager. But it can only hold so much, can’t it. And sometimes it can be on loop. I reckon we’ve all had the experience of having too much in our mind at the one time. That’s when our heads start to spin, isn’t it.

So downstairs we all have the equivalent of the gallery vault. A huge facility to store everything that there’s no room for on the first floor. Everything that is precious and important to us. Because that’s where we tuck away our memories. And the beliefs we’ve picked up over the years. And feelings from long ago. And the programmes we’ve been conditioned with. And the experiences we’ve had. And anything else we’ve learned along the way. Both good and bad. For the most part forgotten. But still real. Just hidden away so we don’t overload the top floor like those other works of art.

But most people don’t realise that what’s downstairs affects everything we do.

I was working with someone the other day who swore black and blue he didn’t believe something. Well at least not consciously. But when we checked in with his subconscious (and this is pretty easy to do, you just need to look at what’s happening in your life to work out what’s locked in your vault downstairs) of course the belief was there. Conditioned as a child by watching his parents struggle. Little choice really but to take it on himself.  Until now…

Because our real power is when we become aware of what’s tucked away inside and then take steps to change it, isn’t it. So what’s in your vault? And what do you need to chuck away?

Day Dreams

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Days like this just beckon me to swing in the hammock and dream away a few hours.  And while some might see this as indulgent, my experience tells me otherwise. Because when we’re relaxed and in that space the messages we send our subconscious are all the more clear. And it knows what to do. To make it all happen. I love that idea that the conscious mind is like a camera. After all, it’s the part that takes the photos which then imprint on our subconscious. And so I am sure I feed my mind only the images of the future I want to enjoy. Carefully stepped out frame by frame.

And I think back to my younger days I was caught daydreaming in class. Didn’t we just cop it. Or those times when to stop and daydream was mistaken for laziness.  As a culture we’ve learned not to dream, haven’t we. Had it beaten out of us. Because being busy is seen as a sign of strength. Not dreaming. What a mistake we’ve made. Because when we slow down we are at our most creative.

So it’s no wonder we all work so hard. Because we don’t take the time to plan it with our minds first. And it’s just common sense that all great creations begin with an idea, isn’t it. That computer or the phone you’re reading this on was once just a thought in someone’s mind. Thoughts made real. Hey, did you know you could strengthen a muscle by visualising it almost as much you can by actually moving it! Not suggesting for a moment you should be just lying around in that hammock all day, but imagine what you could get done in half the time by putting your mind on the job as well as your time and grunt.

So when was the last time you stopped to actively day dream? Where are your dreams taking you?

Gratitude

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I drove in to the office this morning with a strong sense of gratitude. The sun is finally shining again, for Canberra it’s actually warm outside and the day is pure magic. What a trifecta.

And what I found was that this sense of gratitude just seemed to snowball. Because there are so many things we can be thankful for, aren’t there. As soon as I thought of one thing, another one came to mind. And it continued for some time. The windscreen must have felt so good.

But the great thing about gratitude is that it makes us feel good too. Happy, feel good chemicals flow through our bodies whenever we think those thankful thoughts. Not only does gratitude make others feel appreciated, it causes us to shift gear in our brains. And that turns on the happy juice for us too. A pretty awesome bonus, huh. Every wondered why people say grace or a take a moment’s pause before a meal? Because gratitude has physical consequences. Religion aside, the simple act of thankfulness slows us down, bringing us into the present. Enabling us to switch out of our stress and busyness and switch on our happy feelings. Which naturally switches on our digestion. Makes sense, doesn’t it. Such brilliant engineering.

But even more than this, gratitude is the very best way we can affirm our hearts desires, giving ourselves the very best chance of receiving them. Simply by giving thanks as if we have already received them. And by releasing those feel good chemicals, we can lock in the idea of what it is we want. Straight into our subconscious. You know, that awesome gift we all have. It’s a real treasure house so many people are yet to discover, let alone make full use of.  And like a dog with bone, an idea once locked in to your subconscious has no choice but to take form in your life. Just give it the idea of what you want, and get out of its way, because it will do everything in its power to get it for you. No wonder they say, be careful what you wish for.

So for what you already have and the good things yet to come, what are you grateful for today?

An attitude of gratitude. It makes sense to practice it daily.

Watch Your Language

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Canberra has some awesome road signs. Truly some of the best I’ve ever seen.

And I often wonder just who the brains trust is that dreams them up.

Because someone somewhere is getting paid for this stuff.

PEOPLE DIE ON ACT ROADS. That should encourage the tourists.

But there’s a special one that takes the cake for me.

And it simply says

THANK YOU FOR NOT SPEEDING

The sign may as well say

THANK YOU FOR SPEEDING

Because our subconscious mind works that way. It doesn’t hear the NOT. And so all these signs achieve is to implant the very idea of what they are trying to stop.

Speeding.

If I said don’t think of a green frog.

What are you thinking about?

language2A green slimy creature you’re now trying to get out of your head?

What happens when we tell our kids NOT to get into trouble.

They’re now thinking about trouble, aren’t they.

And if we tell someone it’s not scary you can bet your bottom dollar they’re now feeling a bit of fear.

It’s called the law of reversed effect.

So at the risk of sounding like your mother… watch your language. It can do wonders for your communication.