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You might have heard me say in a seminar that, “There are only six stories” people come up with and that the only difference is the details.

You may not know Renee Bressi but she asked me to elucidate, so my reply to her is below.
(Thanks Renee – good question!)
It cuts to the core of how we get and stay stuck and gives a generalised solution.
Grab a cuppa and enjoy what I’m sure will make a difference in your everyday life.
The Six Stories Is A Bit Of An Enigma
As students of personal development you’d be forgiven for thinking that un-packing these stories is the key to understanding everything – and that’s fair enough.
But I’m sure you have noticed on your own journey that they become a bit inconsequential.
The truth is that the stories are figments of our imagination at several levels:
1. Who Says They are True, Accurate & Factual? 
Most families have wildly differing version of what took place on any one day.
2. We Keep The Stories Alive By Obsessing Over Them.
Constantly repeating “the truth” just makes it feel authentic.
3. The Distortion Continues Unabated.
We don’t just remember it as it was – we remember it as it was when we last remembered it.
That’s why most stories get exaggerated over time ala “the fish was thiiiiiiiiiis big…”
4. What Happened Doesn’t Matter As Much As The Decision You Made About Yourself In The Light Of That Happening. (story)
Eg, “I got caught in a bank robbery.”
  • and found my inner strength when I tackled the guy with the gun…
  • and now I cant go into a bank…
  • and didn’t speak up against the bad guys so I’m a gutless wonder…
  • and joined in with them – now I’m a thief
5. The Stories Keep Us Away From The Truth Of Our Existence In This Moment.
That truth is that we have everything we need (right now) to go to the next level.
The most common version of not embracing our daily potential to create miracles is that my growth lessons turn up disguised as problems – which I interpret in the light of my “story”.
Therefore I need my story to sound plausible. 
(If it isn’t – I’m all out of excuses for being a dickhead)
Therefore my story gets a massive sales job.
Others who buy it – gather around to have a pow wow.
Every second spent on the story is both a waste of time and a reinforcement of it as the “truth”.
So, I reckon you are right about there being five stories – three of which sound a lot like each other.
Which leaves us with 2 or 3.
Which is 2 or 3 too many.
The Solution.
1. Spend more time in the present – it releases you from the past.
   (which has nothing new to tell you)
2. Practice mindfulness.

  (six of the top selling ten books in the book stores at the moment are referring to it)


If you have any questions for me about the above, comment on this post and I will personally answer them.


About Paul Blackburn

An internationally acclaimed author and leader in the human potential movement, Paul has instructed seminars for groups ranging in size from 6 to 600 and as a guest speaker has spoken to audiences of more than six thousand. He has taught in Australia, New Zealand, Great Britain and the US. Paul has appeared on talk back radio and television shows including Getaway; A Current Affair and The Midday Show. Paul has a tremendous educational message. He knows how to teach and motivate people to be more effective in every aspect of their lives. Due to his reputation as a world class presenter, the Adult Education Faculty of the Australian National University conducted a study of one of Paul's public seminars with a view to gain greater insights into their own teaching strategies. Paul has survived aggressive cancer, and successfully built four businesses, a strong marriage and a loving family. According to his wife Mary, Paul's strive for improving himself and helping others comes from "his love of life and his incredible love for his family in particular but people in general". She says he is committed to making a difference in the world, whatever it takes. And he does. Paul has a great ability to spark interest and inspire people from all walks of life. In the words of one of his students: "It is not possible to participate in one of Paul's seminars and resist change. Paul has the ability to inspire even the most negative person to change their life for the better." Time with Paul Blackburn may be all it takes to get a shift in thinking big enough to cause a life changing experience. His down-to-earth style is your guarantee that you will be hearing no nonsense, workable solutions to the difficult questions in life.

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Pauline - Reply

Paul, I can’t express my gratitude enough to you. The simplicity of point #4 just showed me how to “close the book” and as of now I write a brand new story where the past has no right to appear. There is only today and today I choose for the odds to be stacked in my favour, permanently. Thank you x

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